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Everyone gets depressed in the sense that we all have bad days, even bad
weeks. We feel discouraged, lack energy, lose interest, fail to have fun.
Even things we enjoy doing stop being fun. We sleep too much, eat too
much (or can’t eat at all). You’ve been there.
The problem is that when we fail to snap out of this sort of depression in a
couple of weeks, we are in danger of falling into a more serious
depression. When the brain chemistry changes, everything positive gets
filtered out. At the end of the day, all the bad things that happened come
to mind (and everything is bad). Even if we try, we can’t think of anything
good that happened. We start digging ourselves a hole that becomes
deeper and deeper day by day as we prove to ourselves how hopeless
everything is. We even blame ourselves and/or feel guilty because we can’
t snap out of it.
Check your anger
Some depression is repressed anger. One lady couldn’t name anything she
was angry about. Then she mentioned that she was involved in a lawsuit
involving family members. Guess what! She was trying so hard to be
positive and helpful that she had lost touch with her feeling of anger. Once
she admitted she was angry, her depression lifted.
Catch 22 stuff will get us every time. “I can’t be angry about that.” We
often feel anger even when anger is not appropriate. People even become
angry at a mate who dies and leaves them. The anger may not make
sense, but you may be feeling anger anyway. Check your anger.
Talk to your family doctor
You don’t have to go to a psychiatrist or even a counselor to check your
depression. Your family doctor can diagnose depression. He may suggest
an antidepressant. If you had diabetes, would you take insulin? An
antidepressant helps get the brain chemistry back to normal. You will have
the same problems, but at least you will be able to think. Counseling will
help you sort things out, get in touch with things, learn some new skills.
I’m not a pill pusher. However, depression is a medical problem once the
brain chemistry changes. I can’t help people with the underlying stuff until
we deal with the depression. Give a depressed person a hundred dollar bill
and he will ask you why it is green and wrinkled.
Different kinds of depression
Not all depression is repressed anger. Bipolar depression probably has a
genetic factor involved. You are still human, and you may be angry, but
some depression can only be treated with medication.
The brain is an organ of the body. Sooner or later, we must figure that
out. If chemical imbalances affect other organs and are best treated by
medication, some depression must also be treated by medication.
A person who is manic depressive experiences “highs” in which sleep is
not needed, energy is abundant, and judgment is poor. When on a high,
you may spend your savings on a wild idea that seems perfectly sane at the
moment. Suddenly, you crash for no apparent reason. Actually, a change
in brain chemistry has occurred. At that point you may be so depressed
that you can scarcely get out of bed. Medication is essential in controlling
Start with your family doctor if you don’t feel comfortable with the idea of
counseling. Think of a psychiatrist as a specialist in treating chemical
imbalances in the brain.
By all means, avoid self-medication with alcohol or illegal drugs. Much
drug abuse is rooted in chemical imbalances in the brain. People try to feel
better by drinking alcohol or taking inappropriate drugs and merely make
You are not weak
One myth is that only weak people become depressed. Depression is not
due to weakness. Men often avoid depression because society thinks it
manly for them to express anger. In fact, about the only emotion permitted
in American society for a man is anger. If you guys don’t believe me, go to
work and tell those guys they hurt your feelings.
Women, on the other hand, often keep anger in because they are
supposed to be kind. Most men will walk away and go fishing when the
frustration becomes too great. The woman, however, has the kids to
consider and often finds herself the CEO of the family after she finishes her
I’ve seen too many women in their forties who are all used up. They have
done for others until they have no energy left. When the box is empty, you
don’t have anything left to give.
Dumping your anger may help you avoid depression, but it ruins
relationships. If you aren’t depressed, you may be the person making
everyone around you depressed. Walking off and taking care of number
one may put some pleasure back in your life, but if you are neglecting your
children (or your mate), you are creating other problems.
How to deal with anger is another topic. The secret is learning how to
express anger in a way that will not harm you or others. Check the index.
You are not unspiritual
I know that some preachers say that if you are spiritual, you will never be
depressed. They have a right to be wrong, but they are hurting people by
their error. Most preaching deals with general principles whereas in my
work I am forced to get down to specific situations. You don’t have to
believe me, but at least consider that I may be right.
The great promises of the Bible are not dependent on how we feel. Even
when you are depressed and feel God has forsaken you, you are still in
God’s loving care.
Remember, all truth is God’s truth, including truth about the brain and how
A final word
If that yuck feeling continues for three weeks, if your energy level is down,
if nothing is fun, if you can’t make decisions, if you are having to work hard
to do even simple tasks, if you can’t snap out of it even when you try, at
least see your family doctor if not a counselor. The deeper you dig that
hole, the longer the climb out of it.
Once the depression is under control, then you can deal with the underlying
issues that may have contributed to it.